Exhausted from travelling, Adrienne and I arrived
home to Murrupula Sunday afternoon, looking forward to an afternoon of relaxing
and trying to escape the heat watching movies in front of the fan. During our screening of The Emperor’s New Groove,
we continuously heard drumming and singing from the house behind ours and
became very curious about what was happening over there: a wedding? a new
baby? Despite being tired, I think in
the back of both of our minds were thoughts about the short amount of time we
have left here and it wouldn’t hurt to go pass by and find the answer to our
curiosity…
So we mustered up the energy and timidly opened
the gate door to the neighbor’s house. Peeking
our heads in to see if we were welcomed, we found a group of almost 100 women
dancing and graciously welcoming us inside.
We asked a few women what the celebration was for and learned it was the
initiation rites ceremony for a young girl of the house.
During these past two years, I had heard people
allude to the initiation rites ceremony, explaining vaguely that it is an
educational ceremony for adolescent boys and girls, initiating them in to
manhood and womanhood, but I never truly understood what took place during such
a ceremony. It had always been somewhat
of a far off dream to experience one in person and what an awesome opportunity
to just stumble across it and be so welcomed to participate!
Very quickly, the women had us kicking off our
sandals, tied capulanas around our waists and pushed us in to the center of the
dance circle, showing us how to shake our hips while clapping, laughing, and
cheering us on. They made sure we had
the perfect positions to watch and learn the dances and then would grab us by
the arm to do it with them. Aside from
the general booty shakin’, criss crossin’ dancing, they had several partner
dances and circle dances too. In one,
partners joined hands and alternated passing through another pairs’ arms. In another, partners crossed one leg in the
air and hopped forward and backwards. In
a circle, we did a “hip-bump pass” dance - with the woman on your left, you
bump hips to the side then the front and then turn and pass it on to the woman
on your right. All the while, during the
dancing, the honoree sat on the floor, her eyes pointed downward, her face
expressionless. I must admit I was very
flattered when women were coming up to me after saying how well I knew how to
dance, and I even caught the young girl trying to hide a smile every now and
then. See Mom, those years of dance
classes really did pay off!
After about an hour of dancing, we were told to
make a pathway and women came in carrying branches of leaves, singing a
melancholy song, leading the way for another woman draped in a green mesh
covering. The girl next to me explained
that it was the honoree’s mother. Then
the mother collapsed at the girl’s feet, feigning death. Naturally, the girl began to cry. Adrienne and I turned to each other, not
entirely sure if we were correctly understanding what was happening, but seeing
the surrounding women smiling and laughing to themselves as the girl continued
to cry. I clarified things with the girl
next to me and she confirmed that this was in fact a joke played on the girl
that her mom had died. After maybe about
10 minutes of the mother laying there, another woman sat down to talk with the
girl and then the mother got up and began to dance for a bit before heading
inside the house. As Americans, this is
probably the worst joke you could play on someone, that someone close to them
has died, but neither I nor Adrienne found it surprising from what we have
learned about the culture during our time here.
I do not mean to incline that Mozambicans are heartless, but more so,
that they have a very different view of death.
Death is much more attributed to fate and when one is surrounded by it
as much as they are here, you almost have
to learn how to deal with it in a different way. But I digress…
Now, the ceremony took a more educational
tone. They brought out some traditional
household items such as the wooden pole they use to pound corn and peanuts,
doing several dances and jumps over it.
Then two at a time, women began rolling around in the dirt to the drum
beat, demonstrating how to properly have sex, one woman playing the husband and
the other the girl. They took liberties
with their roles, some miming smoking a cigarette and others playing the cocky
male. It was all pretty amusing, but
also somewhat sad as it very much promoted the idea of women as there to serve
their husbands. After several
demonstrations, the girl’s older sister did one final demo and then the girl
herself laid down on the straw mat to have her turn.
Following the sex education portion, they then
used the older sister to model how to fashion a Mozambican pad. The sister stripped down and they used torn
strips of fabric, one tied around her waist and the other passing between her
legs, demonstrating how to properly secure it in place. They then presented the girl with her own
capulana for this purpose and continued with more dancing and blessings. The ceremony was led by a local curandeiro, a traditional healer in
the community. All of what she said was
in Mecua, so I couldn’t understand much of anything, but interpreted most of it
as blessings for the girl’s future.
After about two hours, we were told that everyone was
now going home and would return later that night to continue dancing. Adrienne and I were so happy we had gone over
to see what the drumming was about, extremely gracious at how welcoming the women had been in letting us participate in one of their most intimate traditions, but we were also exhausted and probably wouldn’t
return that night.
As I got in to bed around my normal 8:30pm
bedtime, I found it strangely quiet outside and wondered if they had decided
not to continue with the evening’s activities.
Then I woke up around 10pm to the sounds of drums and singing
again. Incredibly, these women kept at
it until almost 4am and then switched over to radio music. Even the next morning and all afternoon, they
still had music going!
Nonetheless, I didn’t get much sleep that night,
but it was still an incredible experience to witness and gets placed near the
top of my most memorable moments. It was
a rare opportunity through which I learned so much about the culture. I think it came at the perfect point in my
service, a point where I feel I can actually appreciate and understand what was
going on, whereas if I had experienced it earlier, it probably would have all
been totally overwhelming. I mean, when
a woman strips down in front of you, it can definitely catch you off
guard! But now, I feel I have come to a
new appreciation of this culture, witnessing the importance and use of dance in
expressing everything, interpreting symbolism in some of the events, and seeing
the role of the female and how incredibly strong the women are, definitely not
women I can keep up with, dancing through all hours of the night!